Ribbon of Worth is an on-line community on Facebook where we share how to live from our true and inherent worth. The essay which started Ribbon of Worth is available through e-mail: [email protected] You have real worth which will change your life for the better when you live from it.
The Beginning of Ribbon of Worth
The story began with a day-dream or I was in the state of mind which occurs right before a dream sets in. It was late one evening in September of 2012. My mind was mulling over the image of a woman who had lost her worth. Maybe she was in an abusive relationship and had grown to accept it. Or she could have lost hope for herself after losing a loved one to an illness. Perhaps she had lost a job she held dear and was emotionally run down and stuck in uncertainty, wondering if she could make a difference again. Maybe she had a troubled family dynamic that was wearing her down. There are many ways we lose ourselves; we forget the inherent value we possess by just being who we are…and being human.
I kept on contemplating this idea of worth and wondered, for people just like this woman, where their sense of worth goes. In her case, was it gone? Was it there but unavailable or hard to uncover because of all the emotional pain and suffocation? I had been in so many counseling sessions previous to the spontaneous daydreaming that day, and in many of them I faced head-on the challenge of helping women just like this, women who seemed to have lost their self-worth. The look on their faces told varied stories of personal pain and loss. But the loss was universal and so tragic to witness.
As I surveyed the images of these women in my mind I wondered what worth would look like if it weren't invisible. I conjured a little movie in my mind of one woman simply telling her story, freely and from her heart. She was feeling unworthy and confused and worst of all she felt like she was less when she deserved to feel like she was enough, even more than enough. While she did this I visualized her life story as an elegant and intricate tapestry with thousands of threads and ribbons woven around her, safely caressing her. But one thing was different: a lone ribbon had unraveled and fallen away from her; it was dangling and separate, dragging on the ground and drug under her feet. It came to me then, the words and realization that captured the essence of both her pain and her opportunity: this was her ribbon of worth! This is what had become dislodged…and it was this that needed to be recovered and brought back to the fabric of her being and be once again part of her unique and beautiful wholeness.
The ribbon of worth isn’t like the rest of the fabric and threads that hold us together; it’s the most powerful and unifying ribbon we have. And while it usually is taken care of and assumed as part of us in our early lives, we often lose sight of it or simply stop taking care of it. We let it fall away from near our hearts and let it fall to the ground, never noticing what we are losing. We let others trample on it too, sometimes by mistake….sometimes on purpose. Through the years in my practice I have had a growing sense this is a prevalent condition in many who don’t realize what has happened to them. And I also have felt certain this important ribbon, this worth, could and should be restored because it is a central component of a healthy and loving being. All that is needed is a caring voice of support and help, and some time, to return someone’s lost worth to their core being. Combined with these fundamental elements I came to believe aiding the finding and restoring of worth to be the most worthy calling I could dedicate myself to in my practice, and in my life. This was my own dream awakened…and my own worth affirmed.
So, I sat up in bed that day and pulled my laptop open and began put into words the images in my mind. What emerged was the idea for the Ribbon of Worth on Facebook. This would bring alive a dedication to make this important but invisible malady, the erosion of someone’s self-worth, visible. And not just visible, but understood, restored, and felt deeply to every heart that has been broken, devalued, and lost.
The Ribbon of Worth story is a gentle reminder to help you or others you care deeply for to never forget their inherent value as human beings, their indomitable self-worth.
Thanks for sharing in our purpose and please….remember your worth!